It is a well-known fact that coxswains are not the best drivers. Aggressive, mental, and supposedly we switch lanes very slowly. So are we bad drivers in relationships as well? Controlling, demanding, intimidating….
There are more than a handful of times where coxing has put a strain on my relationships, as far as my time management and priorities. But then there are the underlying traits of pride, always being right, doing what works for your boat alone, and always requiring obedience. Metaphorically, do the common traits of coxswains hinder our ability to be an equal party in dating?
I’m at the beginning of a relationship, kinda like being in a chute before entering the actual race. You’re starting to move, feeling the clicks, building momentum, but the time hasn’t started. Things seem really great and I’m anxious to get started, despite the ever-present obstacles: long-distance and the possibility that I’m a rebound.
Despite the fact that this situation fell into my lap, I’m scared. I don’t want to take the reins and start pushing the relationship to go my way. I’ve done that before and obviously it didn’t work. Is it time to just close your eyes and dive in headfirst? I’ve got time; I took the spring/summer season off.
Unhooked is a very, VERY good read...
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