Can Women have sex like men?

In Sex & the City, Carrie always puts a catch-all question in her columns. Always witty and thought provoking, the question gives us a thesis to keep in mind as the events of the episode unfold. As much as I would love to be the Carrie Bradshaw of my social group, let alone of a thriving metropolis, I simply don't have that certain "experience" under my belt. But in celebration of the new Sex & the City 2, let's start from Season One, Episode One, and see how it goes...

S1.Ep.1: Can Women have sex like Men?

Without a doubt, women think they can have sex like men. The freedom to sleep around when you're single is empowering and lets us let go of our inhibitions...temporarily.

As a men's coxswain, I tried to go about my love life with the same disregard for labels, baggage and a "deeper meaning" behind my actions as my meathead rowers. Strangely none of their endeavors succeeded, and neither did mine. The crew team, on of the most incestuous sports, is a viable knitting circle of drama.

That being said, do men have sex like they think they do? Emotionless, unattached, a carnal act as opposed to a synergistic step toward a relationship?

“Love is a power struggle. And the winner is the one who cares less.”

I admit to hooking up without the intention of turning it into a relationship. I also admit to looking for a relationship in the most obviously wrong people. In our mid-20’s, we tell ourselves that we are career-oriented. We need to focus on where we are going in life professionally and do not have time for a relationship. Thus women enter into the “non-exclusive”, convinced that looking for love is a waste of time. We are much pickier, looking for specific things and less likely to play along in the LoveGame. What was gray becomes seriously black and white, and there is a much bigger pool of available people to move onto. And thus, the cycle starts all over again.

Now here’s the breakaway. In the instance of a failed endeavor, are men in denial when things don’t quite pan out? Women are very clearly upset when things fall apart; retail therapy, excessive eating, followed by excessive working out, girls’ nights more than 3xweek, etc. What do guys do to cope?

Unfortunately, I’ve seen a grown man cop out when he is at fault in a relationship. We either walks away and turns to “beer, buddies, and pumping iron”, or he has to make it right. It’s like a job that he has to fix. At that point, do you really want him to fix it?

I may be slightly detached from this race, but why put up with sheistiness? If the choice is to have a jerk BF, or have sex for fun, that’s not really a choice? Just don’t be a bitch about it. And we’re back to the beginning.

Yes, THEORETICALLY, women can have sex like men, and men can have sex like women. Regardless, we all can have sex-like burning…so be careful.