If you were me, then I'd be you

"A relationship is like two trees, leaning against each other. If one leans too far on the other, both trees fall. If they don't lean at all, then they're forever separate. They must lean against each other evenly, both supporting and relying."

For the past couple days, I've been sitting in a chair, with little interaction with anyone. Definitely the worst part about my actual job. If my butt is going to fall asleep, it better be in coxswain seat.

Consequently, I've been reading blogs and tweets and statuses all day to pass the time. There are a lot of ideas to throw my five cents at (I always give you more, of course...), and sitting here for 10 hours a day only makes these ideas simmer, irritatingly.

One post I read dealt with the little things in a relationship that come few and far between, the considerate, "because I love you", unexpected things that makes us fall in love all over again.

For instance, the BF bought me a Hello Kitty cookie one morning when he was out getting bagels, because he knew I would enjoy it. When we were long-distance, he sent flowers to my office because he knew we wouldn't be seeing each other for awhile. I had a really hard workout and he treated me to a nice massage. Etc...

Cooking, cleaning, paying bills, that's all what NEEDS to be done. You can split that with your BF/husband and not be out of line. We're talking about things that are done out of consideration. If you already do all of the cleaning, cooking, etc., what does your partner do? If you say nothing, then that's a whole other issue that should be addressed. Otherwise, don't throw those tasks around like you're being taken for granted.

I absolutely love my boyfriend, and why shouldn't I also go out of my way every now and then to make him feel special. When I go out of town for work, I like to bring him back a present, a crazy chocolate bar, or a bad-ass kitchen magnet, something little that I think he would like.

Once I saw some "whiskey stones" in a specialty shop and gave them as a "just because" gift, because I know he like whiskey, and our ice cubes taste funny.

If we're going to be equal in relationships, that's equal in all aspects. I buy groceries, he takes me out to dinner during the week. The rent is (pretty much) split evenly. I always make sure to say Thank You.

Come on ladies, let's see if you can practice what you preach. You're half the relationship, too.